Parentime Therapy FAQs

Every couple and individual is different, so our work will always be tailored to you. Typically, we begin by exploring what’s happening right now: the patterns, dynamics or cycles that you find yourself stuck in. Together, we look at how these play out in your communication, emotions and interactions.

From there, we often explore where these dynamics come from, such as life experiences, family, culture or previous relationships. This helps build understanding, compassion and a sense of choice rather than reactivity.

Alongside this, we begin to introduce practical tools and strategies early on, so you can start experimenting with new ways of communicating, connecting or setting boundaries between sessions. Therapy is not just about insight, it’s about trying things out, reflecting, and learning what works for you.

The first therapy session is a chance for us to get to know each other and to start understanding what’s brought you to therapy. I’ll ask some questions about what’s been happening in your relationship, what feels difficult, and what you hope to gain from our work together. It’s also a space for you to ask questions about how I work and what to expect. By the end of the session, we’ll have a clearer idea of your goals and what the next steps might look like.

This is also a time for us to see whether it feels like the right fit for us to work together. Therapy is deeply personal, so you might decide I’m not the therapist for you or need a few days to think about it. Very occasionally, we might decide that a different therapist or service may be better suited to what you’re looking for.

There’s no set length for therapy; it really depends on what you’re hoping to achieve and what feels manageable for you. Some people come for a few sessions to work through a specific issue just requiring practical tools, while others stay longer to explore deeper patterns, ongoing relationship challenges or more complex issues. We’ll review your progress together as we go, so the process feels flexible and collaborative.

My role isn’t to decide who’s right or wrong, but to help you both understand what’s happening between you, and how you each contribute to the patterns you find yourselves in. I aim to create a space where both partners feel heard, understood and supported to take responsibility without blame. With that said, there may be occasions where I reflect back observations or invite you to focus further on particular points raised, in order to support your understanding and connection as a couple (or co-parents).

It’s quite common for one partner to feel more open or ready for therapy than the other. Relationship therapy doesn’t always have to involve both people in the room; we can still explore what’s happening between you, identify patterns, and find new ways for you to respond. Often, one person’s change can shift the whole dynamic. However, keep in mind most couples will have different perspectives on a scenario, so the more open you are to considering your own role in the challenges you’re experiencing, the more positive changes you will be able to make for yourself.

Absolutely. Therapy can be really helpful for separated or divorced parents who want to reduce conflict and create a more stable, respectful environment for their children. We’ll focus on improving communication, setting healthy boundaries, and finding ways to work together as a parenting team, even if your romantic relationship has ended.